S3E29: Halloween Grief – When the Nightmare is Real

This week we explore Halloween-related grief. 

Halloween can sneak up on us, literally, especially when a loved one has died around that time and your grief is feeling raw and open. It is hard to celebrate a holiday which focuses on the line between worlds of the living and that of the dead when your entire being is aching for the dead.

Halloween chocolates on a tray
Something as simple as Halloween candy can be a trigger that reminds us of traditions and memories with loved ones who died.

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This work by painter Richard Waitt depicts a Scottish jester or fool holding a kale lantern (note the candle at the top)—a practice that was part of 1800s Halloween parades. PUBLIC DOMAIN

Kaling – The Unkown Halloween Tradition

Charlie delves into predicting the future with kale as a nod to a very interesting Halloween tradition. Curious though it may sound to us now, American Halloween used to kick off with a mass theft of root vegetables. An old name for the night before Halloween is ‘Cabbage Night,’ because you would steal cabbage which was part of the Halloween prank. The trick would be one night and the treat would be the next night.

In all likelihood, it stems from the Scottish tradition of “kaling.” Be sure to listen to the episode for some fun and interesting facts!

Recipe of the Week

Colcannon has a deep tradition – be sure to listen to find out!

Our recipe is an Irish Halloween traditional potato recipe – Colcannon – from All Recipes. Colcannon became associated with various Irish rituals, most of them observed on Halloween (or Oíche Shamhna, a harvest festival). These traditions illustrate colcannon’s centrality to Irish folk identity—as do these lovely lyrics from “The Skillet Pot”:

The Skillet Pot

Did you ever eat Colcannon, made from lovely pickled cream?
With the greens and scallions mingled like a picture in a dream.
Did you ever make a hole on top to hold the melting flake
Of the creamy, flavored butter that your mother used to make?
Yes you did, so you did, so did he and so did I.
And the more I think about it sure the nearer I’m to cry.
Oh, wasn’t it the happy days when troubles we had not,
And our mothers made Colcannon in the little skillet pot.


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