Learn how to manage the fear that accompanies the knowledge that Everyone Dies.
Everyone dies…and it is a fact of life that many people are afraid to think about. When asked what it is that makes them so fearful, they typically find it hard to put into words. After all, we exist. So how do we imagine not existing?
It is likely that we are all have some level of fear of death – whether it be the thought of our own death or the fear that someone we love might die. Thinking about death is not pleasant one, and many of us choose to focus on what life has to offer, as well as on our own wishes and goals, instead.
But what is it that we fear about death? Listen to this episode as Marianne delves into the theories (including of course Freud’s!), ancient viewpoints, and modern approaches to help heal ourselves from this fear.
References on Fear of Death:
- Pyszczynski, T., Greenberg, J., & Solomon, S. (1999). A dual-process model of defense against conscious and unconscious death-related thoughts: an extension of terror management theory. Psychological review, 106(4), 835–845. https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-295x.106.4.835
- Death anxiety: The fear that drives us?: https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/318895
- Tedeschi, R. G., & Calhoun, L. G. (2004). Posttraumatic Growth: Conceptual Foundations and Empirical Evidence. Psychological Inquiry, 15(1), 1–18. http://www.jstor.org/stable/20447194
- Diggory, J. C., & Rothman, D. Z. (1961). Values destroyed by death. The Journal of Abnormal and Social Psychology, 63(1), 205–210. https://doi.org/10.1037/h0040194
- Becker, Ernest. The Denial of Death. New York: Free Press, 1973. Purchase here: https://amzn.to/3PSlzQS #affiliate
- How does cognitive behavioral therapy work? https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/296579
- Post-Traumatic Growth – American Psychological Association
Related Podcasts for this Episode
- S1E01: Why Do People Die?
- S2E26: What you need to know about pain, fatigue and skin at the last hours of living
- Why Say That Everyone Dies?
Grief as a Milennial
Claire Luckey, who goes under the name “Grieving Bitch” on Instagram has joined the Everyone Dies correspondent team. At age 32 and only 5 months into her marriage, her husband did not recognize her when she arrived home from work one day. He was diagnosed with Stage 4 glioblastoma (brain cancer) in February 2020, and Claire was his caregiver until his death in June of 2021.
Claire struggled to find any resources for dealing with loss of a spouse at such a young age. She channeled her sense of humor (and inner bitch) by creating the “Grieving Bitch” account on Instagram. Claire is sharing her grief journey and life challenges as a 34-year-old widow living in New York City with Everyone Dies in a regular ‘Third Half’ segment.
Claire joins us to talk about how she and her husband found ways to maintain intimacy through the course of his illness. Some days this means ice cream and cuddles! She also talks about vibrators and recommends her favorite.
Recipe of the Week
Charlie shared the story of the amazing discovery of a sealed sarcophagus in Notre Dame with wonderfully-preserved bodies. If you’re looking for the secret recipe, sorry…that’s kinda gross Charlie! (We hear you snickering!)
Instead, we bring you something that will preserve your…sanity! The piña colada originated in Puerto Rico; the name means “strained pineapple” in Spanish. The fruity piña colada has inspired much debate about its exact origin and how to make it! Listen to Charlie’s run-down of possible history, and watch a video with more history and the recipe here from Travel + Leisure.
As a songwriter, ‘Everyone Dies’ is inviting you to showcase your original work on an upcoming podcast.
There are many wonderful songs that could be played at a funeral. We also know there are songs that could be played, but are cringeworthy (e.g. Ding Dong the Witch is Dead; Another One Bites the Dust; Ring of Fire, etc.).
We are inviting you to send us a recording of two of your original songs (i.e. that could be played at a funeral, one that is appropriate, one that is likely not) to be included in the third half of the ‘Everyone Dies’ podcast. We will include as many artists over the next year (maybe longer if we are enjoying the segment) as possible.
What we need:
Go to this link, fill out the form and submit it along with your two original songs in .wav or .mp3 format (i.e. two original songs that could be played at a funeral, one that is appropriate, one that is likely not). We will screen them and let you know what week your work will be included. We will include all your information in our show notes so people can purchase your recordings.
From Everyone Dies:
Everyone Dies: and yes, it is normal!
Everyone Dies (and yes, it is normal) is a story about a young boy named Jax who finds something special on the beach where he and his grandpa Pops are enjoying a wonderful day. Pops helps Jax understand that death is a normal part of life. This book provides an age appropriate, non-scary, comfortable way to introduce the important topic of mortality to a preschool child. Its simple explanation will last a lifetime. Autographed copies for sale at: www.everyonediesthebook.com. Also available at Amazon
We offer a way to memorialize your loved one or treasured pet with a piece of handmade jewelry. When people comment on it and the wearer can say for example “I received this when my mother died” which opens the conversation about this loss. All our jewelry is made with semi-precious stones and beads, vintage beads, and pearls. You can choose between earrings or bracelets and the color family. Learn More
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