S3E40: What is the Last Good Day?

Living with the Awareness that Every Day is a Gift

If you knew this would be your last good day with someone, or your own independence, would you do something different? Why wait? This episode is all about capturing those moments…and eating lots of pizza and ice cream!

Capture each day

In the book, The Fault in Our Stars by John Green, Hazel talks about life and says, “There’s no way of knowing that your last good day is Your Last Good Day. At the time, it is just another good day.” This week we explore the idea of the last good day through both the lens of disability and that of death.

We talk about the last good day with a loved one. In the first half Charlie has a ghost story for us and “Holy Mackerel, Andy!” he has our recipe of the week. In the second half Marianne talks about how we never know when the last good day is going to be and in our Third Half, Charlie reads an essay by Steve Spohn about his life’s last good days.

What’s in this Podcast:

  • 04:02 – The Holy Cow Cake
  • 04:32 – The 27th Street Goblin
  • 16:58 – Treating Every Day as the Last Good Day
  • 30:36 – Your Last Good Day – an Essay by Steve Spohn
  • 37:05 – Outro

The Last Good Day

A group of friends posing besides a boat, not knowing one of them would soon be diagnosed with cancer.  Do you treat every day as your last good day? (photo from https://elissabass.medium.com/the-last-good-day-cdb0b9647d97)
In her blog about The Last Good Day, Elissa Bass talked about one of the friends in this vacation photo who was healthy and having a good time, but diagnosed with cancer shortly after and later died after a hard battle. How do we know when our last good day with someone will be?

We say “Every Day is a Gift” at the end of every podcast. It reminds us that in the blink of an eye, everything we know, think or feel can change. It can be time with a loved one, our independence, a relationship…we never know. All we can do is be in the moment and take in every day.

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How about you? How do you recognize and celebrate the fragility of life as we know it?

References:

Resources

The Fault in Our Stars – by John Green. Despite the tumor-shrinking medical miracle that has bought her a few years, Hazel has never been anything but terminal, her final chapter inscribed upon diagnosis. But when a gorgeous plot twist named Augustus Waters suddenly appears at Cancer Kid Support Group, Hazel’s story is about to be completely rewritten.

There’s also a US movie by the same name (HBO Max) and a Bollywood version of the story is on Disney+, called Dil Bechara, see trailer below.

True History of the 27th Street Goblin

New York Police circa 1871 (The Bowery Boys)

Charlie read us a story from an 1870 article that reveals the true origin of the goblin that plagued a New York neighborhood a decade earlier. The article is available at New York Times.

Recipe of the Week

Need more milk and sweetness in your life? Enter Holy Cow Cake! A Chocolate cake topped with sweetened condensed milk and caramel sauce which is then topped with whipped topping and chopped butterfingers. Get it right here from Pics and Pastries.

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