The gilded pottery is once again whole but not after a long, careful process. It is similar to the hope offered after a long grief journey when we chose to face the pain instead of avoiding it.
In this Episode:
02:11 – Nana’s Golden Chiffon Cake and a Lesson in Grief
05:31 – An Herbalist Shares The Best Plants For Navigating Each Stage Of Grief
10:10 – Kintsugi and the Grief Process
20:38 – Ask the Ethicist – My Father Was Awful. Do I Have to Plan His Funeral?
29:52 – Outro
What is Kintsugi?
Kintsugi is the Japanese art of putting broken pottery pieces back together with gold — built on the idea that in embracing flaws and imperfections, you can create an even stronger, more beautiful piece of art.
When a precious piece of pottery falls and breaks, people will typically throw them away feeling angry and regretful. An alternative practice from Japan highlights and enhances the breaks therefore adding value to the broken object. It’s called kintsugi (金継ぎ), or kintsukuroi (金繕い), literally golden (“kin”) and repair (“tsugi”).
How Can Kintsugi Be Applied to Grief?
In the art form, the gold is added near the very end of the repair process, not at the initial point of brokenness. There is a great deal of work that must be done to repair the breaks, before the gold is introduced. This is also true for us in our grief, the gold is there but is visible after we do the work of grieving.
Listen to the episode to learn more about the grief process and why it is important to not bypass the important work that comes with it.
Related Content about Grief:
- S2E6: The Stages of Grief
- S1E11: Grief
- S1E12: Traumatic Grief
- Moving Forward After Loss
- S1E33: Adult Orphan
- All our Grief Topics
References about Kintsugi and Grief:
- How the Japanese art of Kintsugi can help you deal with stressful situations (nbcnews.com)
- Kintsugi: the art of precious scars – LifeGate
- How Kintsugi Can Teach Us About Resilience | Era Living
- Kintsugi and grief: Two common misunderstandings | A Kintsugi Life
Resources about Kintsugi and Grief:
- 8 lessons we can learn from the Japanese art of kintsugi — Aleteia
- Kintsugi helped me to understand my brother’s death | Life and style | The Guardian
- A Map of Grief: Kintsugi Leads You to Light After Loss – InnerSelf.com
Ask the Ethicist – My Father Was Awful. Do I Have to Plan His Funeral?
The Ethicist newsletter, in the NYTimes offers advice on life’s trickiest situations and moral dilemmas from the philosopher Kwame Anthony Appiah. We thought we would share one that was published earlier this year. How would you answer?
Recipe of the Week
We actually featured a couple of recipes, with warming thoughts about grief and healing.
Lacey Baier: Nana’s Golden Chiffon Cake and a Lesson in Grief
- Lacey tells the story about how preparing her Nana’s cake helped her grieve, even tough she didn’t realize she needed to.
Christine Buckley: The Best Plants For Navigating Each Stage Of Grief
- Christine offers a plant program for grief to give us additional help in healing. Each recipe includes a quick tea you can make, along with a practice that connects you to the world of plants, yourself, and others.
- Read the full article here: An Herbalist Shares The Best Plants For Navigating Each Stage Of Grief – The Good Trade
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