S4E8: Fatigue: When Your “Get Up and Go” has Got Up and Went

The entertainment world had two significant losses this spring with the deaths of Darcelle XV and Dame Edna Everage. Their lives were fascinating (including a child abducted by a koala!?) and well-lived and they will be missed by their fans. We also talk to Stevan Lemke about his fatigue to help others navigate this debilitating symptom.

Fatigue and Chronic Illness

This week we talk with Stevan Lemke, who was diagnosed with idiopathic pulmonary fibrosis (IPF) and had a double lung transplant 7 years ago. We had the pleasure of doing three interviews with Stevan as he shared about being diagnosed with idiopathic pulmonary fibrosis (Courage in the Face of Lung Disease) and the process of being evaluated for a lung transplant, the wait, the surgery, the postoperative experience (What is Involved in an Organ Transplant?), and what living with a transplant is like.

In this interview Stevan talks about the chronic fatigue as part of his illness and after his transplant. He described it as so prevailing he could almost fall asleep standing up, or on a drive. How do you cope? Listen to Steven to learn more.

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Stevan Lemke holding an ice cream cone to his pup.  Stevan talks about his lung transplant experience.
Stevan Lemke

Honoring Stevan

The two years of COVID were hard for Steven; he had COVID twice with long stays in the hospital. He also had skin cancer and bladder cancer. Cancers can happen because of an organ transplant.  Stevan died at age 69 on March 26, 2022.

Stevan spent a lot of his time helping other people learn about and cope with IPF.  He was very open in talking about IPF and the lung transplant process. At the time of this post, Stevan reached well over 700 listeners with his interviewsand his impact and legacy will continue to grow. Thank you Stevan for your courage and openness!

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Farewell to Two Entertainers

The entertainment world had two significant deaths this year with the deaths of Darcelle XV and Dame Edna Everage. Their lives were fascinating and well lived and they will be missed by their fans.

Darcelle XV

Darcell XV, a famous drag queen who died in March 2023

Darcelle XV was the oldest performing drag queen in the world, according to Guinness World Records, and Darcelle XV Showplace, is the longest continually running drag show on the West Coast.

In November of 2022 Darcelles’ 92 birthday was celebrated with a classic cabaret-style drag show complete with a full-cast opening and closing number, sharp and sometimes bawdy jokes in the venue’s trademark style by host Poison Waters. And at the end of the stage sat Darcelle, who at her busiest had put on 15 shows per week between the spot’s four walls, and who was still at it on her 92nd birthday, performing The Rose” and “What’ll I Do?” that she sang live in her low, gravelly voice. She died the following March.

Dame Edna

Dame Edna was one of the many personalities invented by comedian Barry Humphries.

Barry Humphries (better known as Dame Edna) died at age 89 in April, 2023.  She was described in her New York Times obituary as a “A stiletto-heeled, stiletto-tongued persona who might well have been the spawn of a ménage à quatre involving Oscar Wilde, Salvador Dalí, Auntie Mame and Miss Piggy, Dame Edna was not so much a character as a cultural phenomenon, a force of nature trafficking in wicked, sequined commentary on the nature of fame.”

Dame Edna tells only rarely of an infant daughter, Lois, that was abducted by a “rogue koala.” Though the child was never seen again, to the end of her life Dame Edna never gave up hope she would be found. “I’m looking,” she told NPR in 2015. “Every time I pass a eucalyptus tree I look up.”

RIP ladies.

Dame Edna giving Prince Charles and Camilla a good laugh in a Royal variety show


Recipe of the Week

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